The scene in which Pappu, Lenny’s friend,
is married off was not too shocking to me as it might have been for many of my
classmates. Even in my family, child
marriage was commonplace only a couple of generations ago. My
great-grandmother, my mom’s maternal grandmother, was married off at the tender
age of twelve. My grandparents and parents accept this as a matter of fact,
something that was necessitated by the structure of society back then. The only
stories I have heard about my great-grandparents were that he had taught her to
read and write and that he, as a civil engineer, was the sole source of income.
While I am not shocked too much by the concept of child marriage, I am shocked
by the huge difference between Pappu and her husband. This age difference also
greatly bothers Shanta and Lenny as well, as we see Lenny ask Shanta why people
do such things. The child marriage scene represents how childhood could be
taken away in just a moment and this in turn, represents, how India must face
growing pains as a fledgling country after independence.
When Lenny first hears about her friend
getting married, her parents express shock. However, her father consoles Lenny
by telling her, “Don’t look so worried, mama! We won’t marry you off until
you’re sixteen at least”. Being married off at a young age without any
consideration for education or a career seems to be an inevitable event in
young Lenny’s life, at least then. The question of when was the only moral
issue. Even so, while Pappu’s marriage was shocking to the Sethna family, Lenny
was still sent off to attend the wedding. Only when the groom is finally
revealed, do Lenny and Shanta express disgust. Lenny asks Shanta why Pappu was
being married off to an old man. Shanta only comments “Fear makes people do crazy
things”. In this moment, Lenny is further disillusioned with child marriage and
finds that she cannot trust the adults in her life to make rational decisions
for her. Similarly, India must inevitably wean off of British administration and
make decisions for itself. In the process of this transition, it will go
through growing pains and sometimes “do crazy things”. Even as it gets
independence, just as children are forced to follow the marriage path their
parents have set for them, India is also forced to follow the borders that the
British have set out for them. These borders may not serve needs of India and
limit its opportunities, just as early marriage does for children.
Even though Pappu is unhappy about
getting married, she finds ways to feel superior to Lenny. When Lenny comes
into the bedroom to wake her up, Pappu asks “Lame-Lenny, will you ever find a
husband?” to which Lenny retorts “Of course I will, stupid!” Pappu, instead of
crying out for help to Lenny, resorts to attacking her and presenting her
situation as something to be desired. Pappu does not seem to have the agency to
express herself, as her childhood is stripped away from her and is instead
lashing out at her friend, who also faces the fate of an early marriage,
instead. This is a parallel to India’s different religious groups who are tearing
each other apart, even though they all have the same common goal of finding and
establishing their homeland.
While child marriage is a terrible
institution that was officially legally abolished in 1929 it serves as a
metaphor for India’s troubles after and during independence. India was and is a
fledgling country that is trying to chart its own fate after British
administration. It has had a tumultuous history as an independent state,
including but not limited to, conflict with Pakistan. While these different
groups had lived together mostly in peace as one nation until Britain, former
friends and neighbors were at each other’s throats once they were pushed beyond
childhood.
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